Job Loss, Moving, Relocation – How To Handle The Stress Emotions Of Moving, Get Things Done, New Job

Getting laid off or experiencing a job loss is quite a roller coaster. Then… Eureka! You have found a new job, but it is in another city, another state. You now need to move. I am the wife a a displaced executive and we are moving. Sharing my journey may help make your easier.

The good news is, you have a job. Hopefully it is a good job and a good fit as it is in our case. If the position is too far, you will have to relocate. There was the roller coaster of feelings in the after period of losing a job. Now there is another set of emotions that will go with moving. First there is a the relief of getting that job. You will have a paycheck and be able to live. Dismantling your life and rebuilding will take you through the stages of grief. They are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance (K. Ross).

Denial can be as simple as the thought “no, I am not moving.” Or it could manifest as buying a half a cow for the freezer. This would not be a good ideas as it might not stay frozen during the move. Most of us will be in the middle. We will walk around saying things like “I can’t believe I am moving.” or “I thought I would be here until we retired.” With this realization begins a feeling of profound loss.

Next is anger. It could be anger at your spouse or at your spouse’s boss. It could be a nameless face. Often the anger is just free floating, meaning that there is no one you can “blame,” so you are just mad at the situation. It can manifest as frustration on the job, in traffic, at friends and co-workers or whoever is standing in front of you. It is best to acknowledge the anger, and express it in healthy ways. These might be on the treadmill, track or writing in a journal. Then you can release it. Let it go. The situation is, what it is.

Bargaining… Oh, the ways we can bargain. Do you like your job? Well, you could, not put in your notice. You can delay putting your house on the market. This type of bargaining probably springs form some desperate hope that may be, just may be you don’t have to move. It may delay the inevitable move, but a move is coming. Just be aware that this is present. Have some compassion for yourself. I often find that if I can name the feeling and feel the pain, it simply passes.

Depression or profound sadness comes when you realize on a deep level that this move is happening. You are dismantling this part of your life. The sadness occurs as you put in your notice at work, or when friends ask how things are going. It is spring here in southeast Ohio and it will be my last spring here. I like it here. I have friends here and I have built a life here in this small town. I love my house. It is the nicest house I have ever lived in. And the gardens… oh, they are just lovely. I had some first’s here… being in my first play and first musical. Just because life as I have known it is ending here, it isn’t the end. The life I will build in the new town can be just as good or better that what I have currently. Now I am in acceptance and looking forward to a positive future.

I have moved a number of times and I have learned a few things. One is to appreciate what you have. It will pass. Everything in life is transient. I have made a habit of appreciating my friends, my home, my work, my life every day that I have been here. I appreciate the opportunities I have had here. That also brings me to acceptance. During this whole process, you work your way to accepting the inevitable. This chapter is done and a new one is beginning. I am looking forward to the opportunities that are waiting for me 500 miles east.

The interesting thing is that you don’t go through all these feelings in order. It can get mixed up and you go back and forth. That is normal. Realize that feelings ebb and flow, come and go.

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Packing Supplies For Your Smooth Moving Relocation

There are many reasons why people move home, including getting a better job elsewhere, or moving back to the parents – or away from the parents, or simply because they want to settle down someplace else. One of the most important aspects of every move is getting the right packing supplies for a smooth moving and relocation.

Packing is something that needs to be done at every move and proper packing should be crucial in making sure that all your belongings get to the new place without any damages. Also getting good quality packing materials at great prices should be something to strive for as you can easily save money in the process, since we all know how expensive a move can be.

First of all you need to find the right company that can help you with the move. You can easily hire a moving company that will deal with every aspect of the move, including getting packing material and doing the packing as well.

However if you want to do the packing yourself, you need to get the basic packing supplies that will help you with the move. Some of these are moving boxes, packing tape, permanent markers, labels, packing bubble wraps and specialty boxes.

The most important part of any packing is having good quality moving boxes. This is what you need to put your belongings in. There are many sizes of moving boxes available so you can choose the right one for the very items you want to pack. The main material used for these boxes is cardboard.

The packing tape should be clear sealing tape. You can also use duct tape if you don’t have anything else. You need the tape to secure the boxes the right way. If you buy a tape dispenser you will get the tape in bulk and save money in the process.

A permanent marker is needed to be able to label your boxes. If there are some fragile items packed, the movers will need to know about them so they can handle them with extra care.

Packing bubble wrap is also needed for those specialty items such as works of art or mirrors, items which are usually quite fragile and expensive.

Specialty boxes are needed for various awkward shaped items since you can’t put them properly in regular cardboard boxes. You can find them at most professional moving companies as they usually have supplies of such boxes available in their storage.

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Moving & Relocating Guide

Moving Guide

Plan ahead! Summer is traditionally the busiest, or “peak” season for the moving industry. The beginning and the end of the month are usually busier than mid-month, no matter what the season. The end-of-year holidays are often busy, as well. During that period of time the demand for moving equipment, vans, and personnel is heavy. If you’re able to schedule your move between the months of October and April, you will find lower rates and greater availability.

If you have school-age children, it’s preferable to wait until the completion of the school term to move. For younger children, moving to a new school in the middle of the school term will probably not create any academic problems. However, it may be more difficult for older children and teenagers to switch schools in the middle of the term. Older children will also have developed stronger ties to their friends and may have a harder time adjusting if moved mid-term.

Make a point of scheduling an on-site estimate before you hire a moving company. A relocation consultant should come to your home and do a visual inventory of the contents of your home that you are planning to move. He will then prepare a written estimate for your review.

Decide what items you want to ship and what will be discarded. Inspect your home from top to bottom or from attic to basement before the relocation consultant will arrive. Show the consultant everything that you will be moving.

Effective communication is a key factor for a successful move. Be certain your mover has marked all items that are “going” and “not going” on the survey sheet. The mover will prepare an estimate that includes transportation charges and the charges for additional services that you are requesting. Keep in mind that if you decide to take more items or take fewer items the total cost of your move will change. Inform the mover of any changes with your shipment.

If you decide to do your own packing or partial packing, remember that the moving company is not liable for damage to boxes packed by the customer. However, if there is obvious exterior damage on packing up your goods, make a note on the inventory sheet of your shipment. The driver has the right to refuse to accept any carton that may be improperly packed. If the driver has to re-pack cartons that the customer has packed, additional charges will apply.

If you decide to do your own packing, get packing supplies and start collecting strong boxes suitable for moving. Your mover should be able to provide these, although many movers charge customers for delivering materials. Complete all packing by moving day. You will be busy enough on moving day without having to worry about last-minute packing.

If your move is a corporate relocation, find out what portion of your moving expenses will be paid by your company.

Obtain a written appraisal of antiques to verify their value. Do not retouch, wax or oil wood furniture before moving. Some products may soften the wood, making it vulnerable to imprinting from furniture pads.

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